If you have zoom fatigue, raise your hand.

My guess is that everyone has their hand raised. I know I do. Everyone is fed up with taking meetings on their screens, and so when something is voluntary, you’re going to opt out of it. I get it.

But what are you building if you don’t show up?

Bear with me for a moment while we take a diversion and talk about friendships. We all have deep and abiding friendships, where, if things got tremendously busy and we dropped off the radar for a little while, we could (apologetically) pop back in and reconnect with our friends as if no time had passed and pick up where we had left off.

But what if a year passed, and we didn’t communicate with our friends at all? No texts, no emails, no FB messages or calls (but really, don’t call me; I don’t talk on the phone).

Would that person still be your friend? Or would you have some work to do to rebuild that relationship?

If you said the latter, then why are you expecting your business relationships to be any different?

Recently, someone said on a call about building client relationships that it’s easy to fall into the trap of being busy and thinking “I’ll just do that tomorrow or this weekend,” and then not following up. We ALL do it. With so much of the legal industry having a record year last year, I know that lawyers were busier than ever, so it can feel like it is unnecessary to actively build these relationships that are so important to your business. because they are just occurring naturally.

Until they aren’t.

We all know that the nature of any business is for it to be cyclical. We have highs and lows, and so what comes up must go down. And so we must always be building. And if you’re ignoring your prospects, and yes, even professional friends, are you sure that they’ll be there when you come back to find them when it’s “tomorrow or this weekend”?

The time to invest in your networks is today.

Do you have to spend an hour every day doing business development and managing your relationships? Of course not. But devote some time to deciding what you want to achieve as a starting point (that’s your goal), and how you want to achieve it (that’s your strategy), and then the action steps that you’ll take to get there. It may be as simple as maintaining the relationships that you already have, reaching out to former clients and referral sources to ensure that they stay fresh connections, or in some cases, developing new ones. The means by which you’ll achieve this will vary by what works best for you (and we’ve covered this extensively here on Zen already), but the key is that you MUST show up – relationships are the one thing that cannot be delegated, paused or ignored. Those on the other side will feel and remember the sting of being forgotten and it will be a steep climb to repair the damage done.

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Lindsay Griffiths is the International Lawyers Network’s Executive Director. She is a dynamic, influential international executive and marketing thought leader with a passion for relationship development and authoring impactful content. Griffiths is a driven, strategic leader who implements creative initiatives to achieve the…

Lindsay Griffiths is the International Lawyers Network’s Executive Director. She is a dynamic, influential international executive and marketing thought leader with a passion for relationship development and authoring impactful content. Griffiths is a driven, strategic leader who implements creative initiatives to achieve the goals of a global professional services network. She manages all major aspects of the Network, including recruitment, member retention, and providing exceptional client service to an international membership base.

In her role as Executive Director, Griffiths manages a mix of international programs, engages a diverse global community, and develops an international membership base. She leads the development and successful implementation of major organizational initiatives, manages interpersonal relationships, and possesses executive presence with audiences of internal and external stakeholders. Griffiths excels at project management, organization, and planning, writes and speaks with influence and authority, and works independently while demonstrating flexibility in thinking, especially in challenging situations. She also adapts to diverse and dynamic environments with constant assessment and recalibration.

JD Supra Readers Choice Top Author 2019

In 2021, the ILN was honored as Global Law Firm Network of the Year by The Lawyer European Awards, and in 2016, 2017, and 2022, they were shortlisted as Global Law Firm Network of the Year. Since 2011, the Network has been listed as a Chambers & Partners Leading Law Firm Network, recently increasing this ranking to be included in the top two percent of law firm networks globally, as well as adding two regional rankings. She was awarded “Thought Leader of the Year” by the Legal Marketing Association’s New York chapter in 2014 for her substantive contributions to the industry and was included in Clio’s list of “34 People in Legal You Should Follow on Twitter.” She was also chosen for the American Bar Association Journal’s inaugural Web 100‘s Best Law Blogs, where judge Ivy Grey said “This blog is outstanding, thoughtful, and useful.” Ms. Griffiths was chosen as a Top Author by JD Supra in their 2019 Readers’ Choice Awards, for the level of engagement and visibility she attained with readers on the topic of marketing & business development. She has been the author of Zen & the Art of Legal Networking since February 2009.