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When someone is first thinking about filing for divorce, they don’t often think about the lack of privacy that comes with the traditional divorce process. In New York, courtrooms are open to everyone.  Reporters may be in the courtroom, neighbors may be in the courtroom, parents from your kid’s school may be in the courtroom… you get it. An open courtroom means anyone can walk in, sit down and listen to all the gory details…
In the blog 7 Tips for Putting Children First in a Divorce, I discussed how to have a child-centered divorce and the benefits to children. The other side of the equation is the common mistakes that parents make when they put their needs ahead of the children’s needs.  1. Parents Making Assumptions that are NOT in Their Child’s Best Interest: If you don’t purposely and intentionally keep the children’s needs as your top priority…
A child-centered divorce is a divorce where the parents keep the physical and emotional needs of their children as their primary concern. In a child-centered divorce, every decision the parents make is through that lens – How will this affect our children? What is important to our kids, now and in the future? Most parents intend to do what is best for their children, but their perspectives may be different. Wise parents understand that they…
New eBook by Andrea Vacca: Divorce Without Court: A More Peaceful Solution Do you assume divorce pits one spouse against the other, resulting in a nasty battle where no one actually wins and children are the collateral damage? When most people think of divorce, they envision a courtroom slugfest and a process that drags on for years, resulting in serious financial problems, unhappy children, and lifelong resentment towards their spouse. Continue reading The post Divorce
Part 1 of our 3 part series on holiday planning during divorce focused on putting your children first. In Part 2, we focused on creative solutions to celebrate the holidays that are available through the collaborative process. Here in Part 3, we have some thoughts on putting your children first during the holidays after your divorce is final. You may have come to a final written settlement agreement with your ex-spouse and maybe you’re…
If a couple decides to resolve their divorce using the collaborative divorce process, they will have the benefit of working together and with a team to develop their short and long-term holiday plans. In New York, families who work within the collaborative divorce process sit down and discuss the holidays with their family specialist, who serves as a child specialist and a coach for the parties’ communication. When the parties use the collaborative divorce process
For most people, the holiday season is the happiest of times, but for families in the middle of a divorce or after the conclusion of a divorce, this season can be the toughest. Parents often say their top goal in the divorce is that the children’s lives don’t change. But realistically, whether because of divorce or other circumstances, children’s lives do change. If parents can take care of themselves so that their own pain from…
Recently, I was interviewed on the TUFF LOVE podcast with Robert Kandell about The Radical Change of Gender Dynamics in Modern Divorce to discuss my practice as a Collaborative Divorce Lawyer & Mediator. Listen to the podcast, and learn why I am passionate about non-adversarial divorce: What led me to practice divorce law How to have a non-adversarial divorce Continue reading The post The Radical Change of Gender Dynamics in Modern Divorce – Podcast Interview Featuring
Postnuptial agreements are contracts that are signed during the marriage. These are often entered into when there has been some sort of change in the marital relationship or financial circumstances that causes one or both parties to seek more financial security but the couple is not looking to divorce or legally separate. Having children is another reason why couples may want to discuss a postnup. I recently contributed to a Your Tango article Forget Prenups: Here’s