Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates
At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?”
At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”
At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”
~ Rumi
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Sanns Mediation, published by Sanns ADR, focuses on alternative dispute resolution (ADR) methods including mediation, arbitration, neutral fact-finding, and facilitation. The blog covers commercial, civil, business, and divorce mediation, emphasizing resolving disputes outside traditional court litigation. It addresses topics such as deal mediation, conflict management, team building, and negotiation coaching. The blog also discusses legal issues related to matrimonial cases, alimony, cohabitation, religious upbringing in divorce, and the practical application of ADR in family law. Additionally, it offers insights into mediation training and the role of neutrals in dispute resolution processes.
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Mediation and ADR Prevalent in Divorce
I am often asked how prevalent is mediation and ADR (alternative dispute resolution) in divorces. A recent ABA article surprised me with this statistic:
93% of divorcing couples utilized a method of Alternate Dispute Resolution (ADR)
The details on most…
Matrimonial Trials Resume in Somerset, Hunterdon and Warren Counties
As I’ve mentioned previously, judge shortages in NJ Superior Courts plus COVID delays have created significant backlogs in cases. In seven NJ counties (Cumberland, Salem, Gloucester, Somerset, Hunterdon, Warren, and Passaic) the judge shortages were so severe that the court…
Religious Upbringing of Children in Divorce
I’ve spoken before about religious issues in divorces. They can be contentious. What about religious issues regarding children in divorces (or when a child is born to unwed parents)? Parents from different religions or even different religious traditions within the…
NJ Supreme Court Clarifies Cohabitation and Alimony Termination
I’ve written before about NJ law around cohabitation and ending alimony. Basically, if a recipient of alimony enters into a relationship that looks like marriage but isn’t formalized into a marriage — cohabitation — alimony can be terminated. The…
Are Divorces in Arranged Marriages Different?
Most marriages in the U.S. are “for love.” meaning that the couple has chosen each other to marry. Presumably, they met, dated, fell in love, and then decided to marry. In contrast, many cultures have arranged marriages where the parents…
What is a Get in a Jewish Divorce?
Gotta get a get? What exactly is a get? In a divorce involving a Jewish couple, a get is the document that grants the Jewish part of the divorce. Marriages can be both civil and religious even though we tend…
Divorce, Houses and Higher Interest Rates
The Federal Reserve has been raising interest rates recently to counter the higher inflation the economy has seen over the past few years. How does this impact divorcing couples? The impact that most comes to mind is refinancing the marital…
No Court Appearance for NJ Divorces*
*in some cases and now statewide
The New Jersey Courts issued Directive 18-20 and updated in July 2021 and further updated in December 2022. While some counties or judges had been granting divorces without a personal appearance by the…
Pets are Still Property: NJ Supreme Court
I’ve written extensively about how the law looks as pets — basically as property. The NJ Supreme Court had another opportunity to revisit this concept. The outcome: pets are still property.
The case is Samolyk v. Berthe III. Defendant’s…